If you are SICK of alpha male syndrome, raise your hand!

[Naniyue]

@ X-CrAzYkOoL-X: Just your average American city. Typical mix of races, religions, and socioeconomic levels, with nominal crime. I must just be a magnet for this stuff.

@ Dancso: I'm sorry that you have to live with such people. I broke away from my family a little over ten years ago, to get away from all the negativity and immorality. I hope you will be able to rectify your own situation in a way that works for you.

@ Eruanna: Very nicely worded! Especially about choice! I wish we could just snap our fingers and end the tyrannies that women must face. And eat a lot of popcorn!


Just from tonight, I have a good example:

Tonight, there was a car pulling out that TOTALLY did not see me. I saw it, though, and easily avoided a hit. The guy driving the car actually apologized for not seeing me. I said, "Hey, no problem!" and gave him the thumbs up symbol as I rode away. THAT is how it should go. Not all this male posturing and cursing and crap.

[Rachael]

I wouldn't call it "tyranny" per se, a "tyranny" is something you can't do anything about. Like I said I always had the option of walking off, and if I ever did feel threatened that's exactly what I did.

Honestly, lately, I haven't had to deal with the problem as much as I used to when I was in high school and middle school. But then, these days I don't go out much anyway, and when I was in college my classroom was never more than 100 yards away from a police room, anyway. I think, though, that as people mature it simply becomes less of a problem.

That was a nice gesture on your part - giving him the thumbs up, instead of the bird. Good will begets more good will, and I hope that guy spread some of that positivity around.

[Blox]

It would seem like this is less of an "alpha" male discussion and more of a "dickbag" discussion.

But I mean what would I know about insecure little adolescents trying to assert their toughness and dominance through acting like they're hot shit.
I'm just a big guy (for you) that doesn't get bothered by anyone because 1) Denmark is a cold place where interacting with people is uncommon 2) Anyone that tries will soon learn that I am a tough nut to do anything to.

Not sure if anyone else can just relax like me and not be bothered by anything because life is ultimately pointless and getting worked up about minor inconveniences that will always occur in life is a pointless waste of energy best spent elsewhere.

These tuff guys will eventually learn that being respected as a tough shit has no connection to everyone seeing you act it out at every possible opportunity.

[Xtyfe]

Naniyue you aren't Chris-chan are you?

Seriously though. I can't say I have ever experienced this at all. People are typically more afraid of me in person than anything. I will say though from experience that how people treat you is largely your own fault. If they feel that you are easy to walk over and make these sorts of comments then they will. I think it's pointless really and that's how it should be treated when it happens. A mature person would ignore this sort of thing and if these types know they can't get a reaction out of you then they will figure it out too, hopefully

[printz]

This sounds less like alpha manliness and more like big city rage. How I react to it depends on context: is he right to complain? If yes, then I quietly agree. If not, then I keep my stance while uttering something like "uh, no". I don't try to react angrily because it's wrong. I just try not to let them win. If I'm a bit drunk I can get into verbal fights however, but luckily I usually choose to flee (I like to run away).

As for the thread title, well I am sick of the alpha male syndrome when it comes to politics and leadership. Stop voting for X just because he doesn't give a shit. Is that all that matters for a leader?

[Dancso]

I will say though from experience that how people treat you is largely your own fault. If they feel that you are easy to walk over and make these sorts of comments then they will.

We're not necessarily talking about people you associate with in any way, it could be just a random jerk who decides to overtake you on the road from the wrong lane, just because they think their time is more precious than anyone else's.

The kind of toxic people who think highly of themselves, refuse to accept ANY criticism and feed off of hurting others, you don't have to appear to be a pushover to collide with them.
Surely you must've had the misfortune to accidentally shoulder bump into someone at a public place and have them get into your face like you murdered their mother.

[printz]

I will say though from experience that how people treat you is largely your own fault.

Not necessarily. If you are young or simply look so, especially if male, middle aged people will treat you with mistrust and be quick to yell at you.

[Naniyue]

@ Eruanna: Glad to hear it's not too much of a problem for you at this point. My best friend has a keen sense for sexism, and she has pointed out stuff even I never noticed before.

@ printz and Dancso: Pretty much just random guys. With me, I think they see "NERD!" and think they can take me on. And these are not adolescents, but so-called men in their 20's, 30's, or even my own age group.

But . . there was one time a few years ago when a group of adolescent boys were following me, late at night, after I had gotten off the bus from work. Ultimately, I turned to them and sternly asked them to leave. One came up and punched me in the jaw (probably to save that idiotic concept of "face") and then all of them ran like cowards, with me shouting "Yeah! You better run!" at them. A year or so later, one of those guys saw me at the local convenience store and seemed embarrassed. Good. He should be.

And yes, politics ticks me off, too.

I probably wouldn't complain much about this stuff if it simply didn't seem to occur so damn often. At this point, I honestly believe if I was naturally physically intimidating, this stuff would happen less often.

Oh, and as far as religion goes, I'm as agnostic as they come. I've studied too many religions, philosophies, and schools of thought to truly subscribe to a single one. I just think we should all be nice to each other as best we can. Everybody has their off day, so just apologize and try to do better!