The Still New What Did You Last Do Thread

[Ceeb]

So how do you go about convincing someone you've known 6 years who lives check-to-check not to buy you a gift?

[DoomRater]

If you find out a way I'd like to know. I gotta pass that on to a friend of mine!

[Caligari87]

Most often the best solution is simply to add "please no gifts" on your announcements/party invitations, if you send those out at all. If someone does want to gift, let them do it personally and privately, but hopefully in making the "please no gifts" part the public policy, your friend won't feel any social obligation to get something.

At very worst, you could talk to them privately and directly about the situation and explain that you'd be much happier if they saved that money instead of getting you something fleeting and transitory. Depends on how close you are to them.

[Xaser]

Well, you could replace him/her with me, who is really good at not buying gifts even when there is enough money to spend. >_<

It's not that I don't care, it's just that I am notoriously horrible with dates and can't remember anyone's birthday except my own (and even then, that's debatable since I usually need to be reminded of it once or twice).

[Ceeb]

The problem is that it's not a tangible gift so I can't do much to stop him. I don't even know him personally. But he's trying to commission some artwork for me, and... From probably the most popular furry artist there is. And he's not cheap either. It's a case of I want it, but I'll feel very guilty if I let him do it.

The worst part is that he basically tricked me into it. I was looking at some art of his and remarked about how I'd love to commission him one day. So he asks me what I'd probably have in the picture. Very explicit details. And then he says "Okay, I sent him a message." and I'm like GOD DAMMIT BATMAN

Edit:

Also, cue Zap610 puking in his mouth.

[Caligari87]

Well, in that case it may be better to simply accept the gift, rather than risk offending him or throwing a wrench in the process if he's already contacted the guy. It's his money, maybe he knows his limits, maybe not. Heck, my wife is a money wizard and we practically live check-to-check anyway, but we do so very comfortably. Perhaps he's the same.

[Ceeb]

Heh, I guess... That and it's something he'll enjoy too I guess.

[Caligari87]

Not asking...

[Ceeb]

Good idea.

So uh... Other M.

[Project Shadowcat]

I occasionally wonder if Caligari has a soft spot for furries.

[Caligari87]

How could you tell?

[Ceeb]

It's the brushie. Softens even the blackest heart.

[Caligari87]

I think it's more that I have a soft spot for decent folk, and I keep what friends I can make very close. Regardless of gender, race, lifestyle, religion, or any combination thereof, I've learned to respect and stand up for others who'll do the same for me.

Of course, the furry angle is helped by the fact that the art is often very stylistically beautiful, and capable of expressing pure, abstract emotions that are difficult with a fully human subject.

[Xim]

Moved out. Got a job. Got a gf.

Wish me luck!

[Ceeb]

I think it's more that I have a soft spot for decent folk, and I keep what friends I can make very close. Regardless of gender, race, lifestyle, religion, or any combination thereof, I've learned to respect and stand up for others who'll do the same for me.

That's a very good view on life. I'm glad to call you my friend.

@ Xim: Good luck with that.